Saturday, March 7, 2009Environmentally friendly wedding confettiMost churches won't let you throw confetti or rice anymore.So here are some alternative "confettis":
Labels: weddings posted by Heather and Dan @ 2:59 PM
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Thursday, March 5, 2009They showed me a baby picture!A couple (who are friends of friends) did CouplesQuestions this time last year and they just had their first baby. I saw her picture today. It's so nice when we get feedback!(She's a gorgeous little girl, btw. But the picture isn't for sharing, so you'll just have to imagine it!) Happy Couples, Happy Planet! Labels: about CouplesQuestions, parenting posted by Heather and Dan @ 6:50 PM
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Tuesday, February 24, 2009Romantic Comedies can be hazardous to your relationshipRecent research is showing you shouldn't take romantic comedies seriously.What if you enjoy romantic comedies? Keep watching them! But research by Dr. Bjarne Holmes of Heriot Watt University shows that you need to be a little careful. Holmes says there are three myths common to most romantic comedies. All of them can be damaging to real relationships because they set up unrealistic expectations. 1. Most romantic comedies are all about love at first sight or meeting your soul mate. In the real world, though, great marriages are not flukes. People meet and fall in love, but they become soul mates. It takes time and effort to nurture a great relationship. They don't just happen. As Holmes puts it, imagine if you found your dream job. Then you just relaxed and coasted for 10 years. What state would your career be in? Well, a marriage is the same. 2. Older couples in romantic movies are almost all irritating, bickering, lousy role models. Again, not so in the real world. At age 25, you might not hang out with 60 year olds. But the real role models are couples who have been together for decades, have seen good times and bad, have raised children and built careers, have empty-nested and retired. They are doing something right. Chances are, they will have more to teach you than any movie could. Is there a successful older couple in your life? If not, just keep an eye out for the 70-somethings walking along hand in hand. It'll give your day a little boost when you see them. 3. In the movies, if someone is your true love they know your mind better than you do. They know what you want without you having to tell them. And in the real world? The reason that we talk is that we are not telepathic. You don't need to talk your relationship to death, but you do need to let each other know what works for you. Marriage preparation can be very helpful, since it guides you to understand each other better. Even if you are the sort of couple who finish each others' sentences, you need to make an effort to let your lover know what you like, what you love about them, and what you appreciate about them. Too many marriages just fade out because both partners are waiting for the other one to make the first move. One of Holmes' other findings: people are more influenced by media than they think. Just remember that you are watching the movie to escape reality, not learn about it. And keep the three myths in mind. Holmes, by the way, has begun a study on media, personality and well-being. If you'd like to take part, you can fill out a survey here: Labels: life, love, marriage, relationships posted by Heather and Dan @ 8:50 PM
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Saturday, February 14, 2009Paper AnniversaryHere's an off-beat idea for the "paper anniversary", your first anniversary:Of course, only do this if you are really sure your beloved shares your sense of humour or your earnestness! You might want to have the romantic celebration a few days beforehand, just to be sure. And here we were, thinking there was nothing new going on under the sun! Labels: fun, off topic, recommended posted by Heather and Dan @ 8:03 PM
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Tuesday, February 3, 2009An alternative to the usual Valentine's dinner?OK, this is probably going to appeal to more guys than women. Though at least one woman left a comment wondering whether she could marry this recipe!Here it is, the one and only Bacon Explosion! Labels: off topic posted by Heather and Dan @ 7:51 PM
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Thursday, January 29, 2009A marriage role modelDan's aunt and uncle are really good role models for marriage. Married since the Second World War, they have remained active and spry and together ever since (and they are well into their 80s).She had a stroke the week before last. But they are tackling that with aplomb! The stroke left Christine exhausted, with minimal use of her left arm and leg. Still, she was going crazy after being stuck in the house for a week. So they decided to go out. Only problem is that they had to go somewhere that she could sit down at a moment's notice. So they went to a furniture store! Isn't that brilliant? Happy Couples, Happy Planet! Labels: goals, happy unions, marriage, togetherness posted by Heather and Dan @ 8:48 PM
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Wednesday, January 28, 2009Wedding Night SexGive yourself a break on your wedding night. Dr. Mary Ann Bartusis surveyed couples on their honeymoons. 90% of them rated their wedding night sex from 7 to 10 (on a scale of 10). Ideally, of course, 100% would have reported 10s. But let's face it, there are often such unrealistic expectations that there is no way you could meet them! And you are likely to be tired. Most weddings are at least a little stressful -- they are big events, invested with all sorts of pressures. You are juggling friends, relatives and staff, who are all thrown together and out of their element. And if you have been planning the wedding for ages, it can be a bit of an anti-climax when its over. (Oops, bad pun.) And then add a bunch of pressure to perform on top of it all! Remember: your sex life is going to get better and better over time. It doesn't peak the first night of marriage! Happy Couples, Happy Planet! Labels: marriage, sex, weddings posted by Heather and Dan @ 9:10 PM
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