What makes your love extraordinary?

Dan's right. We place more emphasis on the marriage than the wedding and all the incredible details and distractions that go along with The Big Day. We encourage people to spend time on their relationship and their future together and not just focus on one day. We hope that couples will put the same energy, enthusiasm, time and love that they spend on planning the wedding into strengthening their bond as partners. That's the dream.

But let's be clear about something: WE LOVE WEDDINGS!! They are fun, they are romantic, they bring families together, they are sentimental, and they are full of important rituals and traditions that are worthy of being honoured. We hope that every couple has exactly the wedding they dream about in what ever form that takes. If you want something small and simple, great! Don't allow yourselves to be pushed into something more. If you want the big dress, the limousines and the five-course meal for 300 guests (and if you can afford it - otherwise we advise against this option!) then by all means, have the celebration you want. It's your day.

What is important to remember is that which is at the heart of the wedding: two people are joining their lives, for better or for worse and for always. When you think about it, it really doesn't matter that the groomsmen's boutonnieres don't look like the ones you ordered or the napkins aren't the exact colour of the flowers or whether the wedding favors are all just so. These are NOT the things that make your love extraordinary. You are.

I came across an great article by Linda Arakawa that got me thinking about what real love is - and isn't. Check it out. If it doesn't get you thinking beyond the wedding day even a little bit, then your heart is made of stone. OK, that was a bit overly dramatic perhaps, but it's a lovely article that really puts all-things-wedding in perspective.

I guess that is all I am trying to say: Have the wedding of your dreams, but keep in perspective about what is really important - the marriage.

Happy Couples, Happy Planet!

posted by Heather and Dan @ 11:15 AM